My Detection Checklist

• ✨ Charm early, control later – do they shift when you stop feeding their ego?
• ✨ Do they guilt you for needing boundaries or silence?
• ✨ Do they flip conversations and make you the “aggressor” when you speak truth?
• ✨ Do they make you feel like you owe them explanations constantly?
• ✨ Do they talk behind your back but act kind to your face?
• ✨ Do they disappear until they need something, then reappear like nothing happened?
• ✨ Do they treat your spiritual gifts with suspicion or envy?

Red flag = when someone can't honor your “no,” but expects full access to your “yes.”